What's Your Status? I talk to quite a few of you on a daily basis, but I really don't know some of you at all.
I want to know what your status is, be it:
Unhappily Single 
Happily Single 
Ok with being Single for now
Dating or Involved (specify)
Separated
Divorced
Living with someone 
Unhappily Married
Happily Married 
For those of you who don't know, Deedles has a couple of folks close to her heart, but she is most definitely Ok with being Single for now. *single guys feel happy to try and change that*
(I believe an LDR can work if both parties are willing to put as much into it as they want out of it)
What's your status?
I am living with someone...HAPPILY!!!
ReplyDeleteYou already know mine....LOL
ReplyDeleteDivorced and horny. *yeah i'm being silly*
ReplyDeleteI'm involved with someone, but not living with him
ReplyDeleteLOL @ Rob!
ReplyDeleteI'm single.
And let me elaborate...
ReplyDeleteI'm actually widowed...
Thought I found a relationship (LDR at that) that would've manisfested into marriage, but alas that was'nt the case...
So now I desire to be in a commited relationship...
But I'm HAPPY as I am now; Just that I want something commited and nobody wants me like that, so that's why i say "Unhappily Single"...
RE: "I believe an LDR can work if both parties are willing to put as much into it as they want out of it" TRUE THAT... I am currently "Happily Married" (at least MOST of the time *lol*) to a man that lived 2500 miles away when met. LDR's can most definately work if both parties are willing...
ReplyDeleteTHATS ME!!!! I LOVE IT!!
ReplyDeleteUnhappily Single
ReplyDelete...and why are you using my picture for your blog???
Because I can *poking Mike in the eye*
ReplyDeleteThat be me right there. *sigh.
ReplyDeleteThat be me right there.
ReplyDeleteOk with being single for now.
ReplyDeleteLike Starr, Happily Married most of the time (any bouts of unhappiness has to do with me and my own personal issues...nothing to do with HIM per se)
ReplyDeletePines is Unhappily Single.....but not unhappy per se.
ReplyDeleteI too desire a committed relationship, married 9yrs, single for 8 and ready to settle down again. Tired of the dating merry-go round...but still havin fun anyway!
I'm not a fan of long-distance relationships. I think it's incredibly hard to "start apart." I know everyone has a story or wedding they can point to that proves LDRs can work, but I think those stories represent:
ReplyDelete1. The exceptions
2. People who make a conscious choice to close the gap on that distance sooner rather than later
3. Couples who haven't been married that long (beyond the 7 year "itch")
I won't clog your blog on my theories as to why I don't believe these work (in the long run) but that's just my theory. Relationships with people in your same locality are hard enough. Why the added burden of "starting apart?"
I added a blog about LDRs ---> http://lusindah.multiply.com/journal/item/196/Long_Distance_Relationships
yeah, what you said *lol*
ReplyDeleteIt's a joy (organic to my spirit), none the less. (not to be confused with happiness, which can be a fleeting feeling based on circumstances) *cheesin*
I like the way you put that Starr...
ReplyDelete"Joyfully married" ---let's start a movement!
It definitely can. I met someone when I was so not looking and had plans to move 700 miles away. I stuck to my plans and he followed not long afterwards and we're now happily involved and living together.
ReplyDeleteNever been married... therefore i've never been divorced.. Im not really single and kinda not really together either... so Im a bit happy and unhappy about that... and well ummm it'll take a lot of text and time to try and explain all this... But Im ok...
ReplyDeleteis "ok" a status.. if not it should be...
ReplyDeleteInterested in hearing your vieew on this...since I haven't hit the "itch-mark". But curious as to how a relationship that started as a LDR, has anything to do with how long the couple stays married. As there are just as many couples who have never been apart, that are married & divorced within a year's time...
ReplyDeleteSome relationships that start apart, have much more holding them together than those that didn't - for the simple fact that the pepole involved wanted it, and did what needed to be done to make the relationship a priority, and make it work... It's all about what's important to you. If you want it bad enough, if you believe that you have found your mate and been blessed with your match...it doesn't matter where you are or how you met...so long as you are commited to it.
Commitment is what determines longevity...
I would come back to a Redism.
ReplyDelete*high 5*
ReplyDeletewhat is Redism?
ReplyDeletethat kinda sounds nasty or something
ReplyDeleteOne of your crazy posts.
ReplyDeleteI feel ya, Lu. I've had a few opportunities to DO the LDR thing but declined.
ReplyDeleteIt might work for others, but, its not something that I would actively pursue either.
And let the church say.....AMEN!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMarry Me? ;)
ReplyDeleteI am IMPATIENTLY SINGLE! not really unhappy just real anxious for my Mr. Man to arrive... LOL
ReplyDeleteI can only say in terms of LDR's...THe one I had with my husband,was my first one. I wasn't a fan of them for obvious reasons. But sometimes, you are so connected to a person, that you are willing to do what it takes...even if it's not soemthing thatI was actively pursuing.
ReplyDeleteTruth be told, I was at the height of Living Single...and loving every minute. I had just started a business...Got a new JOB...having a ball with my friends...and then BAM. He showed up and litterally rocked me to my core.
I've learned to never say never. Something as simple as not putting limitations on how I "want" to be blessed, has opened the door for that many more blessings.
Is a LTR easy? Hell no. But neither is any relationship. And I can say, only speaking from my own experience...that we didn't go thru any more in our relationship, than I did with anyone who was local to me.
Again, it ain't for everybody. To each his own...
Dating or Involved (specify)Living with someone ...IM HAPPY IN A RELATIONSHIP
ReplyDeleteBecause some believe that "how you start is how you finish."
ReplyDeleteI would love to hear how you and yours mitigated the perils of long-distance rels to reach that point of commitment. Hopefully what you did, and are doing, is something that is repeatable with success for others, otherwise I believe you end up in the first category as "the exceptions."
Happy!
ReplyDeletehappily single...for now...lol!
ReplyDeleteI realize it's an unpopular stance to take in an environment where lots of single women are hoping and counting on their Handsome Prince residing out there in CyberWorld, mostly likely not in the same city/state/time-zone. But I'm learning to love reality far more than the fantasy.
ReplyDeletehappily single, dating and accepting applications for the fall semister...
ReplyDelete;-)
Check out Lusi's LDR post... http://lusindah.multiply.com/journal/item/196/Long_Distance_Relationships?replies_read=1
ReplyDeleteI have no problem with being an exception to the rule, but who's writing the rules - you? Everyone has different perspectives and experiences, that I can't, and won't, try to write a book on.
ReplyDeleteOUR particular recipe was simple: Decide to be commited, and just do it. Period. We came to a conclusion that we didn't want to be without each other - so we made the move to ensure we wouldn't have to be. *lol* simple as that. Success in a LDR is no different than success in a non-LDR. Honesty, Communication, Respect, and COMMITMENT. I just don't understand what the big deal is...
And for the record - I've seen wonderful examples of LDR's turn in to...11 years of marriage (a college roomate), 18 years of marriage (my aunt & uncle), and 17 years of marriage (my cousin)
Each relationship has a "recipe for success" all it's own. So to lump every situation into one category and shine a negative light on LDR's as a whole, is doing LOVE an injustice. Just IMHO.
Yeah, THAT THERE!!!!
ReplyDeleteI am ... marginally involved and not happy.
ReplyDelete... but I'm working on it.
Happily married, totally ANTI- LDRs that have no set plans and timelines, or if the people are broke lol
ReplyDeleteI'm not against LDRs. If I met that absolute right person, I'd make it work, but for now I would prefer to see my partner on a regular basis.
ReplyDeleteOk, I've been with hubby for 14 years and married for 12 so pretty much all of the above have applied.
ReplyDeleteRight now... They still apply.
So as long as a brutha brings me some ice cream and lets me watch what I WANT...
all will be BLISS!
[biting my nails, hoping he's not reading this]
Im Happily Married
ReplyDeleteThat's me, but I do NOT want to be single much longer
ReplyDeleteI'm neither happily NOR "un"happily single...
ReplyDeleteI'm at "peace" with being alone now but would prefer to have someone special in my life.
i am happily single somedays others not so much
ReplyDeleteI'm happily Crazy..oh and single!.. and whatever else comes with it..and LDR are ok I guess? they dang sure aint for me tho!
ReplyDeleteHow about long distance suffocations? I'm jess sayin'...
ReplyDeleteSingle with a couple of potential prospects...but still accepting applications. :-)
ReplyDeleteI'm single, in love with one, but dating others in the absence of said loved one (if that makes sense).
ReplyDeleteMakes COMPLETE sense to me.
ReplyDeleteCan't always love the one you want, gotta keep on going. I can completely relate.
ReplyDeleteOk...I didn't want to sound tooooooo crazy! :)
ReplyDeletewho moved ? :)
ReplyDeleteDoes it EVER make sense!
ReplyDeleteSingle and DEFINITELY taking applications :)
ReplyDeleteLDR only work if someone is willing to uproot their lives and family for a possibility. It did not work for me, matter of a fact it was the worst decision ever, so I look at it very skeptical.
he moved...25oo miles to claim his bride!
ReplyDeletesmart man LOL
ReplyDeleteOverall I'm Ok with being Single for now, however i have "rare" moments of being Unhappily Single, those times tend to appear LATE AT NIGHT...
ReplyDeleteregarding LDR's... I have found that they do not work for me. However, you make a valid point... for me it became a major financial issue, and then there was the issue of wanting what a want, when i want it... it requires patience, and when you want what you want when you want it, patience can be an issue!
ReplyDeleteBasically. Thats why I said there has to be a clear plan with deadlines and such. I can't imagine being in a LDR for years and there haven't been any solid plans made for one of us to move or both of us to meet half way. I did the LDR thing 3 times and each time, boredom and/or cheating occurred. I'm not saying it happens all of the time, but I think that without being able to spend physical time with someone regularly, smelling them, touching them, seeing their facial expressions up close, going on dates, etc. it becomes difficult to call it a "relationship". I mean, you have to "relate" to have a relationship lol. I think if I ever tried one again, I'd keep it as a "Friends" thing until one of us decided to move or we decided that we were going to unite as one (with a ring involved) and real plans (not cheap talk) were in the works to make that happen. I can't do "exclusive" with someone I can't be around often. It works for some, not for all (self included).
ReplyDeleteIf its meant to be, two people can make it happen. They can make the right moves/steps to make it happen. Distance wont get in the way. There might be bumps in the road because of it, but thats only if you put too much into it before its time. I look at people like STO and Feyonce, who were friends for years, long distance, waited until the time was right in both of their lives, had a plan to be together in person, and implemented that plan (with one moving to the other). I think that's how I'd go about it, had I not found a man who lived in my city lol
Unfortunately, I am unhappily single. Still looking 4 that right 1!
ReplyDeleteDats wassup!
ReplyDeleteHappily single and much at peace and relieved about it.
ReplyDeleteThat's me also... That's the story of my life..lol
ReplyDeleteLifestyle=Happy...
ReplyDeleteRelationship=Complicated...
Rating in Concern about Complications=Bored...I give it 1/2 star...while crunching popcorn !
MASALA